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Articles
Texas Crime Victims Clearinghouse Welcomes California
Meeting the Needs of Victim Survivors Following Violent Death
Reaction-Blaming the Victim
Caregivers Corner- New Video and Book
Grief-a normal and natural response to loss
The Impact of Homicide on Families
Frontline Reports: Group Intervention for Bereavement After Violent Death
Co-victims of Homicide: Specialized Needs
What is PTSD?
What Not to Say



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Family members may not quietly and peacefully accept what has happened...Family members have no choice--they must cooperate with the media, the police and sometimes the courts.

E.K. Rynearson, MD
Virginia Mason Medial Center


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Reaction-Blaming the Victim

by Connie Saindon, MA, MFCC, CTS

I was surprised when watching an episode of a TV Crime Show to hear a prosecutor say "There are few true innocent murder victims as most have contributed to their death in some way." He went on to elaborate that he was especially passionate about the case they were featuring in this particular episode as she was true innocent victim. The story went on to describe an affair she started and then separated from her husband. Her new love killed her and left her in the woods.

This discussion is not meant to pick on anyone in particular but to point out how often and easy it can be for anyone of us to blame the victim. No one deserves to be murdered. Just because someone has a part it does not mean they are responsible for being murdered.

Those are My Thoughts, what are yours? Submit your reaction through our contact page. Your name must accompany your response. If your submission is selected, let us know how to sign your entry. You may use initials or a nickname. SVLP reserves the right to the selection and editing of all submissions.

Editor, Connie Saindon 


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